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A Conversation That Goes Deeper
One-on-One Coaching with Dr. Kuan
You’ve read the articles. Maybe tried the pills, or injections.
You’ve had the follow-ups, the scans, the checklists.
But when it comes to navigating sex, connection, and identity after treatment—or after a major life transition—most men are left on their own.
No one tells you how to talk to your partner.
No one tells you how to make peace with a changed body.
No one tells you what to do when you’re technically “fine”… but something still feels off.
That’s where this work begins.
Who I Am
I’m Dr. Kuan, a board-certified urologist, certified life coach, and creator of the Sex After Retirementnewsletter.
For more than two decades, I’ve worked with men navigating prostate cancer recovery, aging, hormonal shifts, and changing relationships.
My background is clinical.
But the most meaningful work I do now lives beyond the exam room.
It lives in the space between “everything looks good” and “I don’t feel like myself.”
In the questions men ask when the fixing is done, but the healing hasn’t quite happened yet.
What This Coaching Is (and Isn’t)
This isn’t therapy.
It’s not a medical appointment.
And it’s not a quick fix.
It’s a private, confidential 30-minute conversation designed to help you get clear on what’s actually going on—and what might help you move forward with confidence, honesty, and strength.
While I am a physician, I am not your physician in this context. This session is not a substitute for medical care. I will not be prescribing medications, ordering lab tests, or making medical diagnoses. If something comes up that may require medical attention, I will encourage you to follow up with your own healthcare provider.
This is a space for reflection, insight, and grounded guidance—not medical treatment.
Why Men Book a Session
You’re facing a decision about treatment or surgery (like a prostate procedure or penile implant) and need to talk it through—with someone who understands the medical reality and the personal impact
You’re in recovery after treatment for prostate cancer but don’t feel fully reconnected—to yourself, your partner, or your desire
You’ve been living with changes in function, identity, or intimacy and don’t know how to talk about it
You feel “fine"—but not like yourself
You just want someone to talk to who gets it
What This Conversation Can Do for You
Most men arrive in one of three places:
Something has changed, and they’re not sure what it means yet
They’re stuck between choices—whether medical, relational, or emotional
They’ve tried everything physical, and still feel like something’s missing
In a session, we work to:
Make meaning out of the mess—what’s changed, and what hasn’t
Name what’s actually at stake, beyond performance or pills
Reframe options—not just medically, but relationally and personally
Clarify what action (or inaction) would feel aligned—not reactive
Afterward, men often tell me:
“I feel more grounded in my next step.”
“I have words to talk to my partner now.”
“I thought it was just about erections. It’s not.”
“I wish I’d had this conversation years ago.”
You don’t have to be in crisis to book a session.
Maybe you’re just feeling a little off.
A little uncertain.
A little tired of pretending everything’s fine when something still feels unsettled.
Maybe you have a good doctor, but can’t quite make sense of all the information, or need space to understand what it means for your life beyond the chart.
You don’t have to know what you need before you reach out.
That’s what this space is for.
What You’ll Get
One 30-Minute Coaching Session – $200
A private, unhurried conversation via secure video
A space to say what you haven’t said out loud yet
Insight from someone who understands both the medical and emotional realities of this chapter
A clear, honest sense of next steps—whether medical, relational, or personal
No pressure. No follow-up sales. Just clarity.
Who This Is For
Men over 50 navigating changes in sexual health, identity, or partnership
Partners who want support having honest conversations
Anyone feeling stuck in the quiet aftermath of treatment or transition
People who don’t need therapy—but need a real conversation
How It Works
You book a session using the link below
You’ll fill out a short intake form
We meet via private, secure video call for 30 minutes
You leave with a clearer sense of what’s next
That’s it. No commitments. Just one honest, grounded conversation.
Not Sure If It’s Right for You?
If you’re here, and something about this resonates—you probably already know it is.
Let’s Talk
Book your one-on-one session here: